May 14Another Pointless Narc MomentOr Why Your Comments are Always Wrong, Irrelevant, Ignored — Having a Narc in your life and writing about it on Medium can be a double-edged sword. The good things: The ability to express your confusion and frustration; to learn more about the insidiousness of being enmeshed with a Narc; and to discover a supportive community. The bad things (for…Narcissism4 min read
Jan 13I’m a Meghan Markle Fan…But these 3 things are still sketchy to me — The Meghan Markle (“MM”) world saturation point has surely been reached so I hate to add to it, but as much as I want to believe wholeheartedly in the fairytale gone wrong due to racism and jealousy and not by anything said or done by the Duke and Duchess of…Meghan Markle7 min read
Dec 29, 2021Narcissistic Entitlement: Never a 50:50 Partnership“Why should I have to do chores?” he condescendingly asked — The extent of my Narc’s entitlement to be the King of his and everyone else’s world was really brought home to me yesterday during a conversation (if such a thing is possible with a narcissist) about a bad fall I had last week due to overgrown plants draping over our…Narcissistic Abuse5 min read
Dec 28, 2021The Things a Narc Will Say to Keep you Off BalanceForgetting them is a form of unconscious self-protection — Blocking out traumatic events is a well-known psychological phenomenon known as “dissociative amnesia”. While it can relate to major life events such as war, accidents or natural disasters, it can also occur where a person is under severe stress such as that caused by abuse. Dissociative amnesia (“DA”) extends beyond…Narcissism6 min read
Dec 27, 2021Like Father, Like DaughterMy Week From Hell With My Covert Narc Step-Daughter My step-daughter has not figured dominantly in our lives. Now 23, I first met her when she was 11, and she has always been “difficult”. Partly I believe it is because she was weaponised by her Mother to hate her Dad…Narcissism8 min read
Dec 23, 2021A Classic Narcissist MoveApparently I Am The Abuser The only positive time in a relationship with a narcissist is when you finally learn about the dynamic you are caught up in. For years I discounted the strange things he said, his twisting of events and conversations (insisting that his memory was the correct…Narcissism5 min read
Aug 27, 2021When Life Seems Too HardJust hold on…at least ’til Wednesday Trigger warning: This piece refers to suicidal thoughts. Today is Wednesday. I am so glad it is Wednesday, and not Sunday, Monday or Tuesday. Because on those days, part of me wondered if I would make it to Wednesday. Boring old “hump-day” Wednesday. But…Suicide Awareness7 min read
Aug 20, 2021Four Days Ago I was Content and Happy and SoberSo why this morning did I wake up feeling so despondent? — Four days ago I arrived back from an epic trekking trip in Nepal*. “Epic” both in its physicality, and its sheer fun. And the people, the food, the scenery. It was amazing. If you ever get the chance, go there! * This piece was written in Nov 2019 and has…Alcohol Addiction6 min read
Aug 20, 2021Is He A Narcissist Or Am I Just “Difficult”?The cognitive dissonance of not being sure I have only recently dipped my toe into the thought process that my partner might be a narcissist. Trust me, it is one of those ideas that once you give it any kind of credence, it really takes hold. That “aha” moment when…Narcissistic Abuse9 min read
Aug 19, 2021Why I Blocked Someone on MediumThe trigger was real….but my reply got me lots of fans. Go figure! The Medium Daily Digest is a funny thing. It really drills down on a topic once you have clicked on related stories/subjects a few times. So much so that sometimes I have to call “enough” and get…Narcissism3 min read
