Nov 6, 2022Member-onlyBeating Those Drinking TriggersA Mum on a Mission — No Alcohol Needed I am writing this on a plane having caught an early morning flight across the country to see my 23-year-old son. I only booked the flight yesterday. After completing the trifecta of moving out of home for the first time, moving…Alcohol4 min readAlcohol4 min read
Nov 6, 2022Member-onlyCan You Recover From a Cheating Partner?I’m giving myself a solid month of me-time to try and find out My shit of a husband joined Tinder back in June. I found out on the first of September. The day after I was diagnosed with a serious skin cancer on my face. …Infidelity5 min readInfidelity5 min read
Jun 18, 2022Member-onlyI Went To My First AA Meeting TodayScary, Surreal, Emotional I finally did the thing I had always resisted. I did it with the same unconscious impulsivity that would often see me in the bottleshop reaching for my usual 2 bottles of Sem Sav Blanc. I woke up, thought of going, cancelled my pilates class, had a…Alcoholics Anonymous6 min readAlcoholics Anonymous6 min read
May 14, 2022Member-onlyAnother Pointless Narc MomentOr Why Your Comments are Always Wrong, Irrelevant, Ignored — Having a Narc in your life and writing about it on Medium can be a double-edged sword. The good things: The ability to express your confusion and frustration; to learn more about the insidiousness of being enmeshed with a Narc; and to discover a supportive community. The bad things (for…Narcissism4 min readNarcissism4 min read
Jan 13, 2022Member-onlyI’m a Meghan Markle Fan…But these 3 things are still sketchy to me — The Meghan Markle (“MM”) world saturation point has surely been reached so I hate to add to it, but as much as I want to believe wholeheartedly in the fairytale gone wrong due to racism and jealousy and not by anything said or done by the Duke and Duchess of…Meghan Markle7 min readMeghan Markle7 min read
Dec 29, 2021Member-onlyNarcissistic Entitlement: Never a 50:50 Partnership“Why should I have to do chores?” he condescendingly asked — The extent of my Narc’s entitlement to be the King of his and everyone else’s world was really brought home to me yesterday during a conversation (if such a thing is possible with a narcissist) about a bad fall I had last week due to overgrown plants draping over our…Narcissistic Abuse5 min readNarcissistic Abuse5 min read
Dec 28, 2021Member-onlyThe Things a Narc Will Say to Keep you Off BalanceForgetting them is a form of unconscious self-protection — Blocking out traumatic events is a well-known psychological phenomenon known as “dissociative amnesia”. While it can relate to major life events such as war, accidents or natural disasters, it can also occur where a person is under severe stress such as that caused by abuse. Dissociative amnesia (“DA”) extends beyond…Narcissism6 min readNarcissism6 min read
Dec 27, 2021Member-onlyLike Father, Like DaughterMy Week From Hell With My Covert Narc Step-Daughter My step-daughter has not figured dominantly in our lives. Now 23, I first met her when she was 11, and she has always been “difficult”. Partly I believe it is because she was weaponised by her Mother to hate her Dad…Narcissism8 min readNarcissism8 min read
Dec 23, 2021Member-onlyA Classic Narcissist MoveApparently I Am The Abuser The only positive time in a relationship with a narcissist is when you finally learn about the dynamic you are caught up in. For years I discounted the strange things he said, his twisting of events and conversations (insisting that his memory was the correct…Narcissism5 min readNarcissism5 min read
Aug 27, 2021Member-onlyWhen Life Seems Too HardJust hold on…at least ’til Wednesday Trigger warning: This piece refers to suicidal thoughts. Today is Wednesday. I am so glad it is Wednesday, and not Sunday, Monday or Tuesday. Because on those days, part of me wondered if I would make it to Wednesday. Boring old “hump-day” Wednesday. But…Suicide Awareness7 min readSuicide Awareness7 min read
