A Classic Narcissist Move
Apparently I Am The Abuser
The only positive time in a relationship with a narcissist is when you finally learn about the dynamic you are caught up in.
For years I discounted the strange things he said, his twisting of events and conversations (insisting that his memory was the correct one), the rages, the lies...
I was truly worried for him — was his forgetfulness an early sign of Alzheimer's which had claimed the life of his father? Was his agitation and his argumentativeness because he was constantly in a hungover state due to his daily heavy drinking? Would he lose his job as I could hear the constant arguments with his colleagues when he was on the phone.
Why was it impossible to have a conversation with him that didn’t go around in circles until you just didn’t know what you were talking about anymore?
Why was I constantly in a state of confusion? Agitation? Despondency?
Then I Learned About Narcissism
I can’t even remember now how I stumbled on an article/blog/YouTube video, whatever, on NPD but it was my salvation.
This is what I am dealing with. This is what I need to learn more about.
And so I have. It hasn’t changed anything about my partner or his behaviour but at…
