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I’m Trying To Stay Sober
While living with my alcoholic partner — it’s challenging
During my roller coaster battle to stay away from the demon drink, one thing has remained constant — my alcoholic partner.
High functioning sure, but still someone who I can’t avoid being around and who triggers me. I know that the triggering is my issue, not his, but it doesn’t make life any easier.
Our drinking patterns are completely different. He drinks every day, and in quantities that most people would consider excessive — a few beers in the afternoon, red wine with dinner (and after dinner, usually until the bottle is finished) and then if it is in the house, whiskey or some other spirit.
There are only about 4–5 days a year that he will drink nothing whatsoever.
When I am not drinking, it is not the alcohol he is having that triggers me though. My drink of choice is white wine. I hate the taste of beer and spirits, and red wine I can take or leave.
What triggers me, basically, is how annoying he is after the first couple of drinks. He is argumentative, rambles and thinks his condescending put-downs are funny.
The kids scatter to the far corners of the house and I spend a lot of the time with my nose stuck in a book rolling my eyes.
