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Is He A Narcissist Or Am I Just “Difficult”?
The cognitive dissonance of not being sure
I have only recently dipped my toe into the thought process that my partner might be a narcissist. Trust me, it is one of those ideas that once you give it any kind of credence, it really takes hold.
That “aha” moment when you realise that this …. this cluster bomb of strange behaviour is not you imagining it, and is certainly not you, but something that your partner is actually doing to you.
I am still not 100% there though. I still sometimes wonder if it is me — am I the one who is f***ed up? Am I always unreasonable? Unforgiving? Unstable? Difficult?
I know I am sometimes…
We all can be, right? Get anyone on a bad day and they can be grumpy, irrational, tear-y and stubborn.
But I also know that I am an empath — I give and give to all around me and apparently, narcissists seek us out like a heat-seeking missile. Who knew?
That is part of the trouble, actually. Until you come across a narcissist then you have no idea of how they can be and the damage they can do to you mentally. It starts off slowly — the denial of something they said, the erratic, inconsistent behaviour that throws you off your axis a little, the constant one-up-man-ship, the fact that you…
